If I could have one superpower, I might make it the power of Externavision™ (not really trademarked, just in case you were wondering). I refer to the power to see myself from the outside in. Empathy is the ability to see another person’s feelings through their own eyes, Externavision™ is the ability to see yourself through another person’s eyes.
How would the way I live my life change if I thought more often about how my wife, my kids, my parents, my friends, my coworkers, and clients see me? My sinful default processing system runs all the data I encounter through the epistemological filter of selfishness. I go through much of life thinking inwardly, with a self-centered lens coloring they way I see everything.
My best days are the days I manage to get outside myself, and really be more interested in God’s honor and my fellow man’s
Externavision™, like everything else in life, can have harmful side effects. It can tempt us to become crippled by what other people think of us. We do need to maintain our independent minds, to be ready to listen to God more than men (Acts 5:29).
But used rightly, this ability to see what others see in me can make a beautiful life. That’s because, as Batman once said (in that great movie Batman Begins), “what we do” really does define us – at least in regards to our human relationships.
The good news is that we don’t really need a superpower of Externavision™ to do this. Pray that God will help you see yourself more often the way your spouse and kids
We’ll be much better at acting toward others how we’d like them to act toward us if we work to develop the mental habit of seeing our actions through their eyes.